vlogs

I’ve been doing YouTube videos every week since January 2013.  They’re a personal highlight for me because we cover such a wide range of problem zapping topics from How To Create Great Habits, to How To Start Living a Perfect Day Right Now to Loving (yep, I said ‘Loving”) The Skin We’re In. I always aim so that they’re topical and all videos are researched for social impact. And I walk my talk. I take you into my life and share personal stuff like how I handle perimenopause and what it’s like to take the plunge and grow my hair out gray.

Here’s a quick video that gives you an idea of some of the subjects I cover.

 

 

 

Episode Notes, Links, and Resources – Below are videos from 2016 listed from newest to oldest. (You can find even earlier vids by scrolling down the page)

New Career At Midlife- Where To Begin?:Live Class

How To Have More Confidence: Live Class

How To Make Friends At Midlife: Live Class

How To Stay Positive Even During Challenge

Am I Too Old To…? The Brutal Truth

Gray Hair: 3 Top Questions I Get About Ditching Dye Ep #18

Perimenopause Adventure: What’s Happening For Me Right Now

How Your Emotions Right Now Can Create Your Future

This 3 Minute Practice Is Awesome For Your Health

How To Put Your Big Girl Pants On

How To Handle A Really Bad Day

This Simple Quote Could Be A Game Changer

A New Year: Come On A Beach Walk With Me

 

Episode Notes, Links, and Resources – Below are videos from 2015 listed from newest to oldest. (You can find even earlier vids by going to my YouTube channel)

How To Not Overeat During The Holidays

The Five Things I’m Grateful For

How To Deal With Criticism At Midlife 

How To Sleep Better

How To Make Friends At Midlife

Where To Start When You Have To Start Over

How To Cope With Intense Perimenopause Symptoms

What’s Your Money Story?

My Gray Hair Adventure Book Is Finally Here

Gray Hair: Trying New Things When You Ditch The Dye

My Game Plan For The Second Half Of Life

My 30 Day Cold Shower Challenge

How Wayne Dyer Will Change The Second Half Of Your Life

Why I Don’t Play The Age Card

How To Deal With A Complainer

How Do I Cope With Unwanted Changes In Life?

Energy Boosts When You’re Going Through The Change

How To Reduce Problems With Coffee/Wine During Perimenopause

How To Deal With Loss At Midlife

Empty Nest-Is The Idea Old School?

How To Get Your Mojo Back

How Do I Stay Relevant In The Workplace?

Will I Ever Get In Shape At Midlife?

How To Do Self-Help Without Doing Your Head In

Are Your Moods Keeping You Unhealthy? 

Super Cool Tool For Making A Hairy Decision

How To Rock A Bikini After 40

How To Deal With Difficult People

Procrastination: Are You Sabotaging Your Dreams?

The Midlife App You Must Have

How I Cope With Breaking News That’s Heartbreaking

Gray Hair: Do You Really Have To Be Brave?

Five Things To Bring On A Plane (That Will Help You Forget You’re On A Plane!)

Changing Your Life When It Seems Like Nothing’s Happening

How Do You Do Your 5pm?

Getting A New Hairstyle When You Grow Gray Hair

Don’t Quit On You!

About To Be Laid Off And Terrified!

How Do I Become A Morning Person?

How I Deal With Heartache At Midlife

Dealing With A Funk At Midlife 

What If My Gray Hair Doesn’t Look Good Enough?

A Midlife Career Transition Secret Weapon

 

Episode Notes, Links, and Resources – Below are videos from 2014 listed from newest to oldest. (You can find even earlier vids by going to my YouTube channel)

How To Grow Wings At Midlife

How Much Are You Worth At Midlife?

Things My Ex-Hairdresser Taught Me About Growing My Hair Out Gray

What Is Your Morning Ritual? 

Creating New (and functional) Holiday Traditions : Money

Two Things You Can Control During Career Transition

Is It Time To Do That Thing You Always Wanted To Do?

Do You Have A Daily Gratitude Practice?

Are You Secretly Worried About Your Drinking At Midlife?

Going Gray- A Love Letter To Under 40’s

What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?

The One Thing That Changed My Life After 40

How To Have A Healthy Relationship With Food At Midlife

Dread Winter? How To Embrace The Change Of Seasons

Gray Hair: Activate Your Inner Badass

Become Your Own Ice Bucket Challenge

How To Take Charge of Your Midlife Mental Health

Need Help? How To Start Asking For It

Why Growing Gray Hair Makes Me Want To Color

Do Our Bodies Start Falling Apart At Midlife?

Do You Love Your Problem?

How To Deal With Boomerang Kids

How To Have Good Boundaries At Midlife

Getting Through Bad Hair Days When You Grow Your Hair Out Gray

How To Love Your Wrinkles

Is It Unhealthy To Reveal Your Age

What If Gray Hair Makes Me Look Old? 

Want To Be Ageless? Do This

Want Change But Scared? Here’s How To Approach Fear

Don’t Stress- Instant Hack When You Can’t Solve A Problem

Growing Gray? Feel Confident On Big Occasions

Getting Your First Tattoo After 40? 3 Questions You Must Ask

Instant ME Time – Get Your Life Back In 1 Minute

How To Actually Enjoy Perimenopause

How To Stop Self Trash-Talking

Makin’ Like Clooney When You Grow Gray Hair

How To Fall In Love After 40

How To Predict Your Future At Midlife

Stop Feeling Invisible At Midlife

Gray Hair: Coping With Opinions Of Others

Awesome Coaching Secret For Solving A Problem 

How To Cope When Things Drive You Crazy

How To Make Every Day Your Perfect Day

Self Acceptance While Growing Out Gray Hair


Want me to guide you through making change at midlife? Download a sample chapter of  my book Be Your Own Change Guru: The Ultimate Women’s Guide For Thriving At Midlife HERE or download a sample chapter of my book How To Find Your Purpose After 40: The Secret To Unlocking Your Unique Gift To The World HERE

7 thoughts on “vlogs

  1. Hi Susan-Sydney ! Thanks for answering me. I`m sitting here, trying to find out the most upcoming thing for me now.
    It`s all about finding out what kind of woman I am. Being a good girl my hole life, turned on a monster inside of protesting -but the protest never came out. I realy didn`t wish to be the good girl, with all the demands of being according to others-please them.
    So you have talked about bringing out the badass and thats what hid me. I so much want to make changes in my style, be provocative, reacting on my feelings rather than on correctness. Loving my fantastic color of grey hair groing out( I do ) Trying to be on my outside what I am on my inside. Well my problem is as this: I have dreams of being a better me, do the weightloss, do my pianist-homework, do this and that!-ending up with the problem of being a good girl (AGAIN ) And I don`t want to be a good girl !Why am I so angry and jealoux with other women ? How can I find out the girl/ woman I am. I feel it`s much something inside I have to work out, instead of the outside hunting for the perfect look, the perfect style, the perfect bag, the perfect perfume-I have spent so much time on that, and somehow its very important for me to have this going on. But it doesn`t make me happy- I feel angry!! So do you have some not-dangerous tips, for letting the ” monster ” come out? I seriously plan to have a tatoo!!! I feel very well with my fitness-doing in the center- moving my body gives me something good. But in my case, i must have changes in my doings all the time, to prevent the ” trapped ” feeling of being ” good again ” I am looking foreward to read/ hear your thinking of this problem of mine.

    • Hey Janne

      Oh you bring up a gazillion awesome topics so thank you first of all for inspiring me. I will have a think and do something, and when I do, I’ll let you know!

      In the meantime, the whole “good girl” thing is really common because so many of our generation had to be “good girls”. Being a “good girl” might’ve given rewards, kept us safe, or kept whole family’s on track – there’s a whole range and of course, this is going to play out in our life as we get older. I think what happens is that when we get to midlife and we see all these things that don’t work, have never worked but we continue to cycle through, we might see it’s because we’re still trying to be a “good girl” and it gets us really pissed off. We see that maybe if we would’ve been truer to ourselves we might’ve had different outcomes, etc. So my first thought is just to look and see how entrenched the ‘good girl” thing is in your life. If it’s really deep and maybe feels beyond what you can untangle, it could be awesome to work with a therapist.

      But if you feel like you can embark on your own, I say start with physical to begin releasing and working with anger. The life coach Cheryl Richardson describes an awesome technique of smashing old lightbulbs with a hammer (and of course protective eyewear) or you can do the ol’ wack a towel against a wall. On a practical level, it might be fun to go to some kick boxing cardio classes or beginning boxing to literally take your stuff out on a bag. But that’s where I would start this time of discovery, by going straight to my body and finding a way to release these feelings in a dynamic way. Besides the physical benefits and besides releasing anger, I think that it’s going to give you clarity and self esteem and help you start connecting with who you really are, the stuff that will help you begin the next chapter of your life.

      I hope that gives you a little idea for a start. Let me know….A fascinating topic and awesome that you’re at a point where you’re ready to explore!

      xx

      Sue

      • Thanks a lot for your answer. Yes!!! I AM after all these years in contact with my anger, and it makes me shout out, be provocative. It`s such a releasenot to have this craving for looking beautiful,sweet, be nice, be good, be helpful etc. I do make some workout as you sergest, and it really feels good coming in contact with my body and the teenager, the anger that was there. My mother gave me that feeling about what a real girl/woman do or not do-. So beeing a correct girl ment actually censure all the masculine aspects: vitality, beeing wild, beeing ugly, having stringth, beeing fat etc etc. So I really had to work very hard to become a good little girl and to censure all the energy I had for so many things.YES-I have smashed royal porcelain, YES I did scream out with sticks in the forrest, Yes, I sometimes play the piano so loud and so noisy, that I think the whole naighbourghood hear it- but it FEELS SO GOOD to be ” I dont care a s…”. I have finally reach a point giving up the struggle to be beautiful. I can say NO to others. And I have come closer to hear that voice from inside, who is always telling the truth about my feelings, and acting on it…but the good girlstuff continues, as you say, it may take time because she had that life.

        • Hey Janne

          Good for you letting it all out. It’s such a process and i guess we have to look at big change kind of like untying a very tight knot. If you think how many years it took for that good girl knot to get so tight, you can appreciate that it might take a while to untangle it. But what an amazing journey and it makes me wonder if journaling or blogging or writing music (you say you play piano) about your whole experience could be something cool to explore?

          Another thing to tell you. I was at the library the other day and I saw the autobiography of Melissa Gilbert – who played Laura Ingalls in the TV series from the books. Of course I had to get it, and one thing she said was that she receives letters from all over the world of women who really got into the show or fell in love with the books when they were young girls and that it helped them deal with very intense issues like abuse, loss, etc. She mentioned that she thinks its because the story was very simple- just about a family that really loved each other and had to deal with the basics in life – shelter, food, survival – and hit a chord when modern life was getting very complicated. I really appreciate that we had this chat about the books because that helped me zero in on the book and get a little confirmation on the power of that series and how it resonated so globally.

          Big hugs from Sydney lovely woman x

          Sue

  2. Hi Susan,
    I follow you on youtube and I’ve just watched your latest vlog: “How to stay positive even during challenge”. (Sorry for my english, my mother languaje is spanish)
    You say that the universe is here for us and every bad moment hides a pro or a lesson or something good.
    I’d like to believe that. I’ve tried, tried so hard to find the good behind my current situation(I’m long term unemployed and feel totally desperate and exhausted)
    Each morning I try again, I look for a job and some hope. I guess that’s the instinct of survival. I’d love to write again saying that you were right and there’s a reason and there’s a hope.
    Thanks for your good advices

    • Hi Carmen

      Thanks so much for writing. Your english is great!

      First off, I wish I could give you a hug because it is exhausting trying to stay motivated and to keep on going day in day out. I volunteer my time as a coach and teacher with Dress For Success and I meet women all the time who are in the same boat. But there are a few key things that you can do right now that will help (and have nothing to do with filling out resumes!)

      1. Start with your body. Your health is everything so with the time you have, use it to get as fit as you possibly can. This will help change your brain chemistry to give you more optimism, stamina in the job hunt, ideas for possible work and a self esteem that potential employers will appreciate- aside from the looking good part. With many women that I work with, health has not been their priority.

      2. If you want change, you have to change. Sometimes we expect change to be delivered to us and if we keep on doing the same stuff and hanging around the same people and circumstances, nothing shifts and we wonder why. Now is the time to find your people -www.meetup.com is a worldwide hub that has opportunities to connect with others in your area. You could join a club in the field you’re looking for work in and use it as a networking opportunity or you can simply join something that interests you. Shake things up.

      3. Be okay with doing bridging work. Sometimes we get focused on needing a certain type of job that we ignore temporary work, not necessarily in our field such as working in a cafe, driving Uber, housecleaning, whatever. But I think that taking on bridging work during job searches actually does more than bring in some extra money.

      I’ve written a book called Be Your Own Change Guru and I’m going to send a digital copy to the email address you’ve provided as a gift for you. Inside it has an exercise called Top Five Dreams and I think you will be amazed at what happens when you do it. It might even lead to self employment ideas or new career paths to explore.

      I’m absolutely expecting a note from you shouting that there’s hope from the rooftops so keep me posted okay, Carmen?!!

      x
      Sue

      • Hi again Sue:
        Thanks so so so much for your great advices. It’s like you can read my mind 🙂 Without knowing me you’ve pointed out two of my “weaknesses”.
        I really appreciate your help and kindness. I’ll love to read your book, and I’m sure that it’ll be helpful. I can’t wait to read it and work on it. I’ll keep you updated!
        This is my email address: carmenhernandez1900@outlook.es
        Sue, muchísimas gracias de corazón (thanks so much from the bottom of my heart)
        Keep doing this great job!
        Carmen

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