Listen To How To Find Your Purpose After 40

When I was a 12 year old kid growing up in the ‘burbs I started to become haunted by the concept of finding my purpose. I can specifically remember being out in the front yard, looking around at all these other houses on my street and wondering “What was my point?” and “What was my place in all this?”.  It wasn’t that I was unhappy or bored, it was just that there was this deep questioning that came from within. I knew that when it came to being alive, there had to be something bigger than what I could see in front of me.


Back then, not knowing my purpose was more intriguing than frustrating but as I got older this big question wouldn’t go away. In fact, as the years went by I almost felt like it was mocking me to the point that in my mid 40’s I came to a fork in the road. I could once and for all drop this “purpose” thing (and probably be miserable) or figure out some way to find it, once and for all.

I chose to seek and that led me right to where I am now.

In this episode of The Change Guru podcast I read a profound exercise from my book “How To Find Your Purpose After 40: Your Secret To Unlocking Your Unique Gift To The World” that lets you connect with your inner 12 year old. I know that sounds so “new-agey” but stick with me. If you take the time to go through it, you will be amazed at the direction and wisdom that comes from this young person. To this day, this exercise blows my mind and helps me know that “yes, I’m living my purpose”.

As mentioned in the podcast, if you like what you hear, please enjoy a sample chapter by clicking here. You can also buy the book here. And if you’d like to listen to another book I’ve written, check out this podcast where I read a first chapter of Be Your Own Change Guru: The Ultimate Women’s Guide For Thriving At Midlife.


After you’ve listened to the podcast,  I’d love to know what direction your 12 year old has given you and what action you took within the 24 hour period. Post your discovery below 



2 thoughts on “Listen To How To Find Your Purpose After 40

  1. Hi Susan,

    You have a lovely reading voice, and I’m sure you’ll be very successful in doing an audio version of your new book. You started this podcast, by saying that someone had advised you to slow down. I don’t agree, I think you read and talk quite slow enough, for everyone to understand. Perhaps rather than slow down, you could add, a few more pauses here and there, just short ones, rather than slow down. Maybe you could vary the tone a little in these longer podcasts. I know that sounds weird, but it works. I am a primary school teacher, and I have been teaching for more than 25 years, and I know from experience that if I want to keep the attention of more than 20 children, I have to vary the tone of my voice, and use pauses to my advantage. I love listening to your podcasts and vlogs, keep up the brilliant work.

    I bought this book for my sister Kate, who lives in Italy, for her birthday, earlier this month, and she loves it. She had discussed this chapter with me over the phone, as we both find it very difficult to remember anything we enjoyed doing on our own when we were 12. There were 5 kids in our family, all very close in age, and we always seemed to be doing stuff with each other, or friends, or our grandparents, or our cousins, that were also close to us. I enjoyed a very happy home life, and a positive childhood, yet I find it easier to remeber things I didn’t like when I was 12, rather than what I loved doing.

    We will endeavour to search deeper in our memory banks in the next few weeks, to try to complete these rewarding exercises.
    Thank you so much, for taking our hands, and guiding us, and inspiring us, along the journey of midlife.


    • Hey champion Rosie

      Thanks so much for all this great advice and coming from someone who knows speaking on a professional level is really appreciated. I really will work on varying my tone – top suggestion- and when I do the record I get the benefit of stopping and editing so there will hopefully be more natural sounding pauses than the one take podcast. Ahhh, it’s gonna be fun and when I get input like this it makes me even more spurred on.

      I’m so stoked that you and Kate are going through this together. Even now, like I mentioned in the podcast with the CB radio, I get strange flashbacks to my 12 years old self that remind me of what I love now. I thiiiiiink I even had pen pals and that really resonates with all the amazing women like you sisters that I’ve met around the globe. I think when it comes to discovering things you didn’t like at 12 is a powerful tool as well because a lot of times we are vulnerable to getting talked out of what’s right for us, especially from teenage years on, so revisiting what you didn’t want could reveal some awesome breakthrough stuff! Keep me posted if anything comes up!

      I might’ve told you before but it’s very powerful to know that there are sisters who are so connected and supportive of each other during stages of life. It truly warms my heart. Thank you for being here.

      Hugs from me x


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