Whether it’s stuff like a breakup, a job bust-up or a health reality check, there comes a time (most likely many times!) where it can feel like we take backward steps on our life’s path. But one of the many things that I love about midlife is that even a setback has the opportunity to take on a whole new meaning and in this week’s podcast, I share ways that we can reinterpret this life event and turn it from something that happens to us, to an actual gift that can happen for us.
I recently fell and injured my right arm during what was supposed to be a mild, mannered day hike. It’s my first real injury and also the first time that landed me back in hospital (briefly for xrays) since the birth of my kids. While it’s been painful (getting better every day) and annoying (it’s my writing and everything else arm), it’s also been a fascinating experience on so many levels – physical, mental and soul.
In another time in my life I would’ve seen this as a pretty big setback. For one thing, I love my yoga. I’ve been practicing for many years and I really had no idea how much it depends on the movement of my wrist and lower arm. For one thing, anything I have to use my arms to support my body weight has pretty much been out of the picture. That meant downward dogs were impossible for the first while, and then ended up being painful but doable. Lower push- ups and backbends- staple postures of a very basic practice. Fawgetaboutit!
Here’s a little vid for the yogis out there about two weeks after my fall. I took it when I was camping and you’ll be able to see that rather than doing an upward dog, I do a little back stretch standing up. It’s an example of how I modified so many things. I also finish off with my first downward dog attempt. It looks pretty reasonable watching it back, but let me assure you at the time it hurt like a “mofo”.
And then there was my work. Fortunately the fall happened during holidays when I was on my break, but I was counting on the break to work on my next book. With writing being my primary business tool, i got a rude awakening when I could not type for longer than a few minutes. I had to just relax, breathe and trust that everything would be okay. And of course, getting dressed, undressed, trying to do just plain ol’ normal life was pretty much off the table without asking for help. But as I mention in the podcast, this is where the magic happened.
During this time, besides my yoga practice, there’ve been a few key things that were and continue to be essential for helping me see this time in a whole other light. I reckon they will relate to even non-physical setbacks. Here are the links for more info:
and absolutely 100%, practicing gratitude day in day out
Have a listen to the podcast. Did it give you some insight in how to deal with a current thing you might’ve called a “setback”? What resonated? Post your comment below.