SOLD OUT – THIS CURRENT MASTERMIND IS NOW FULL! PLEASE EMAIL ME IF YOU’D LIKE ME TO ALERT YOU TO THE NEXT ONE.

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What if:

You could do anything you wanted with your life RIGHT NOW and there were absolutely no limitations at all.

What would this look like for you?

How would it feel?

What if you could really SEE and TOUCH what’s in your heart and soul? What If you KNEW that you didn’t have to hold it in any longer? What would it be like to live without any regrets because you listened to and honored your soul’s calling?

Now, have that picture in your mind as I tell you this:

This deep yearning within you is REAL

It might feel scary. It might feel too audacious, impractical, impossible, costly, risky and every other fear laden description in the book but regardless of all that – It’s REAL.

So what if you could figure out a way to bring this realness to life in a way that is right for you? What if you could do so in a supportive environment with like minded women who are also daring to turn their dreams into reality? And what if you could do this under the watchful eye of a coach who’s dedicated to helping women live their life on purpose and who also happens to be damn good at idea creation and action step taking and having your back?

If this is resonating, my upcoming Inner Circle Mastermind is for you. The theme is “Dream It, Do It” and the aim will be to turn what’s in your heart and soul into reality.

“Dream It Do It” is an entirely online, six week experience that runs from Feb 20 – March 31.

In a Mastermind, with me by your side, we take what’s in your heart and soul whether that’s creating a plan for a new business, getting on track with a new attitude towards health, thinking about getting back into dating, taking on a new adventure – whatever is beating it’s drum to be released – and we figure out a way to bring it to life in a way that’s right for you.

Here’s the Schedule

Week 1 -Body, Mind and Soul Reboot – This week is dedicated to getting everything ready so that you have the right mindset and environment to bring your dream to life

Week 2 – Blueprinting Your Dream – This week we will unpack your dream so we can create a creation game plan.

Week 3 – Let the Creating Begin – The fun part begins now. This is where your dream starts taking shape.

Week 4 – Pushing The Edge – Dreams often involve going out of your comfort zone and this week we’re going to play with this edge in a way that feels safe and fun.

Week 5 –  Here We Go – Your dream is taking shape right now.

Week 6 – Look What You Did! – It’s time to evaluate what you’ve created and what your next steps are. At this point you will be amazed at the growth journey you’ve taken from where you’ve started to now.

HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL EXPERIENCE IN THE MASTERMIND:

SESSIONS WITH ME: 6 weekly live and online, small group one hour coaching sessions on Google Hangout with a focus on what you want to achieve and action steps to complete each week to get there. I’ll tailor the time to the majority of the group members’ locations. (p.s. I’ll also walk you through how to use a Hangout if you’ve never done it before.). Please note,while highly recommended, these sessions are NOT mandatory and an alternative DIY version is provided if you need to miss.

PRIVATE LOUNGE: Private secret Facebook page and community where you’ll have access to me for any questions, resources, and inspiration that you need to stay on track.

VIRTUAL CHEERLEADING: 6 weekly exclusive pep- talk emails that will get you excited to take on each week.

VIDEO INSPO: At least 6 weekly Facebook livestream lessons from me to keep you motivated. I do whatever’s necessary to keep everyone fired up and moving forward. You can watch these at your convenience through the week.

TRIBE: New friends – Hang, learn and be supported by like minded women – no going it alone here.

 

THIS CURRENT MASTERMIND IS NOW FULL – PLEASE EMAIL ME IF YOU’D LIKE ME TO ALERT YOU FOR THE NEXT ONE 

How To Minimize Drama At Midlife

I was about to record this video when I got word that there was a shooting happening in California about an hour from where various immediate family members are scattered. I knew from the location that they were safe but I turned on CNN anyhow, just to find out what was up.

As I watched the unfolding situation and the uncertainty of what was happening I heard the mantra from this week’s vlog floating in the back of my brain. I think that it really helped me know when to draw the line of what I needed to know. I ticked the boxes of whether everyone I knew was safe and when that happened I noticed that the news anchors, who really had very little information, were cycling through the same tidbits, speculating without any facts. It was all frightening filler and with that, thanks to the “mantra”, I knew that it was time to shut the television off and focus on my own story.

Originally, I meant this video to be timed for the holiday season. That time of year where we often find ourselves breaking bread with family or friends or colleagues who might push our buttons. But in reality, oversharing, getting wrapped up in other people’s issues and basically taking a voyeuristic and opinionated role to life is a 365 day a year, 24/7 possibility. The great news is that we don’t have to let this be our reality and it’s amazing the personal benefits that come about simply from knowing what’s truly important and needs attention.

Give my mantra a chance. Practice it a bit. I found that once I really worked with it – noisy negative drama becomes very obvious rather than sly, mental clutter and once you’re aware of that, you can put a stop to it immediately. It’s definitely not easy but man, I don’t think there’s ever been a better time in life to make it a priority.

What do you think of the quote? Post your comment below and let me know if it’s a concept that can work for you?

How To Not Overeat During The Holidays

One of the things that I love more than anything at midlife is the opportunity to completely debunk the so called “traditions” and expectations that have been laid on us for a lifetime but are really dysfunctional, damaging and down right dumb. While there’s lot of them the tradition that I’m talking about right now is that idea that it’s okay to stuff ourselves to the gills during the holidays.

I feel like in the past decade of so, this idea of excess at the cost of our health has extended far beyond how we behave at the table. It’s gone on to concepts like “Black Friday” and “Cyber Monday” and all the other supposed holiday traditions that we’re supposed to buy into (literally) even if it isn’t necessarily in line with our bank account.

The truth of the matter is that this insatiable hunger isn’t about food or things. It’s about looking for comfort and security. Most of us have not been raised with the tools to recognize other ways to feel nourished and in turn we end up with a rude awakening come January when our clothes don’t fit and our credit card statements arrive. Speaking of credit cards, did you know that around 80% of American households have on average $15.000 worth of credit card debt? Something’s not being addressed here and food and things aren’t the answer.

In this week’s video, I share five of the key things I do so that my food is a pleasure and not a punishment. I apply the same philosophy to my spending habits as well. It means that I don’t look at this time of year as a way to go into denial and that to me is a tradition worth enjoying, year after year.

My question for you is what holiday tradition would you like to upgrade or ditch altogether? What new way of celebration is in line with your life? You have complete permission to do it – we’re all big girls now, after all.

x
Sue

The Five Things I’m Grateful For

A few days before I recorded this vlog the terrorist attacks in Paris happened. And that same day bombs went off in Beirut. And a couple weeks before that a bomb exploded on a Russian plane over Egypt. If you only watch the news it can feel like the world is coming apart at the seams.

But it isn’t. For all the horror there is heart and warmth and beauty and peace. But the thing is that if we are only glued to the television or a newspaper or even the wrong places of the internet, it’s tough to see. This is one of those times where a dedicated gratitude practice really reveals its benefits. When you focus your mind on finding the goodness in the world on a daily basis, it’s more likely to go there on almost an autopilot function when hell is unleashed. It doesn’t mean that you walk around in a state of ignorance when life goes pear shaped but what it does do is remind you that there’s an escape hatch somewhere. It lets a little bit of light in to at least provide some kind of balance to the dark. I found this for myself this week. For nearly a year I’ve been keeping a little gratitude journal. It takes me about a minute or so to do and often it feels like I’m going through the motions with it, knowing that it’s the right thing to do but not feeling sure if it really means anything more than a momentary reality check – which don’t get me wrong is perfectly great, but whether it helps in other ways, I’m never quite sure.

Until stuff like this happens. This week I realized that without my gratitude practice I’d probably be frozen in front of the television in a state of despair rather than moving in the world with a realistic attitude that now more than ever we need to be more present and kinder to ourselves and each other.

AS I write this, a few days before Thanksgiving happens in the U.S., I know that many of us love this time of year because we’re encouraged to go into a state of gratitude. It’s a beautiful thing. But I think one of the awesome things about living in the world now is that there’s actually scientific proof of the importance of being thankful all the time, of appreciating the stuff that we tend to take for granted. It builds a sort of resilience, a protective barrier during a time when we need it most.

So my suggestion is to give the whole “gratitude every damn day” thing a try using this “most wonderful time of year” to act as a kickstarter. I think you’ll find, like I did, that the little effort it takes to do matters in magnitudes when you need it most.

And by the way, thank you very much for taking the time to read this- I appreciate you. xx Sue

How To Deal With Criticism At Midlife

In this week’s vlog, I’m sharing ways to deal with judgment and criticism that are based on personal experience. I can’t tell you how many times I speak with women who want to do big, glorious, amazing things but they just can’t take that first step and it’s down to one thing. They’re worried what others will think. Some are so worried that they don’t even dare tell their partner or closest friend.

There’s a very cool blog post by Seth Godin that explains that failure is certain. Regardless of how successful you are or how special a project you create is, someone is not going to like it. It’s a guarantee. Even the most beloved figures of all times from Jesus to Madonna have had their fair share of critics.

Godin puts it this way ,”Once you realize that failure is certain, it’s a lot easier to focus on impact instead”.

I think in the back of our minds we believe we have a combination of an endless supply of time to make our dreams happen and that a “knight on a white horse” is going to come to our rescue and deliver our dream to us. When I realized that neither of those scenarios would happen, I knew that I simply didn’t have the luxury to worry about what others thought. It was time to get busy.

What would you do with your life if you didn’t have to worry about what others would say? Watch my video and hopefully there’s something from my story that will show you that when you back yourself – even if you get judged – the world doesn’t stop turning. In fact, I think it turns a little bit smoother and sweeter, simply because you ignored the faceless thoughts and voices with opinions and did what you needed to do to live your purpose.

How To Plan Your Day

It’s been a big few weeks. I’m on the final days of editing the audio version of my book Gray Hair Adventure. There are many steps that I have to take to get it done and It’s been a bigger job than I expected. That’s okay though. It’s a massive learning experience but I’ve really loved doing it and hope it will reach others who prefer to listen to their books rather than read.

But by the time that I finally go to bed, I notice that my head has been spinning and no matter how much I work on chilling out before I hit the sack, I’m still trying to figure things out and plan and….you know what I mean. It’s hard to shut down.

I stumbled upon this practice recently and I have to say, it really helps. It allows me to get out all the stuff that I need to and finally, when I’m ready, I can get into it. Like any practice, you have to actually do it, again and again and again. Even if the mind resists and even if you’re too tired to do it. I think putting a little picture by your bed, like Dr. Dyer does could be a powerful way to always remember to do it. I love that pic and love how intently he is looking at the sign.

So give this a try and let me know what you think. It’s really helping me and it’s a habit that I can see working for me through the rest of my life.

How To Make Friends At Midlife

Most of us have grown up with the concept that friendships will be with us for life. But what happens when we change, but a friend doesn’t? It can feel devastating. Against the grain of everything we’ve learned. The status of our friendships isn’t just a Facebook thing at midlife. This is a time where transition is in the air. We leave a job and lose friends. The parents of our kids friends move on once our kids grow up. Or it’s just about us. We grow up.

 


 

There are those amazing friendships that do last forever. The key I think to those is that these relationships have a balance where each other’s needs are appropriate for each other. When they get out of balance, hanging in there for the sake of not rocking the concept of friendship is where things get painful.

I mention in the vlog that there are solid ways you can meet new friends but I can’t say it enough. Before you do these, take the time to ask yourself those tough questions about what you need to do to bring exquisite balance into these new relationships. Your new friends will thank you by being the quality ones you long for.

Resources for making friends:

Meetup.com – connect in real time with people from all walks of life on topics you’re interested in.

Article on How To Meet Friends

Podcast I did on Meeting Friends At Midlife

 

Starting Over At Midlife ? Do This

Earlier this week, I taught a class at Sydney’s Dress For Success on the subject “Over 50, So What?” It was about changing belief systems and the role these beliefs play in the decisions that we make in our lives. One aspect of the class was talking about the topic that I cover in this week’s vlog – examining the people around us.

 


When we’re going through a massive life change such as starting over, it’s near impossible to successfully transition to a better outcome without taking a good hard look, not only at yourself, but your inner circle. I know this from personal experience because before I started working with women over 40, and was in my old career as a television producer, I was spending most of my working hours alongside people I really couldn’t turn to. I had no mentors. No one who was inspiring me on a 9-5 basis. Thank god for my husband, Dale. He was there for me when everything was so challenging and I think it was because of him that I knew, when I finally reached a fork in the road to go down a career path that was more aligned with who I was (and am), that I knew my standards of people in my life had to match him, even if it meant starting from scratch.

It took time but it was worth it. Now, every single person in my “inner circle” is the type of person I look up to, can be myself to, is there when life is up or down. And even the outer rings of this circle are full of great people. Backing myself, improving what I brought to the friendship table, and ensuring that I was serious about going into my next chapter with the strongest foundation possible resulted in me being proud to be the average of the people I spend time with. It didn’t happen overnight, it wasn’t easy – because it can get a little lonely initially- but it certainly has made the difference for me.

I’m quite reflective of those challenging times in my mid 40’s and during a time like this month, where I’ve been able to bring new projects into the world, I feel very grateful for the lessons I learned. Starting over is actually a GOOD thing.

So it’s been a busy month of birthing work babies.  First there’s been the soft launch of my book “Gray Hair Adventure: Things I Learned About Life When I Stopped Dyeing My Hair”  and while that’s happening I’m recording the audio version of my book. I also recently launched a new course on the Curious.com learning platform called “Finding Purpose In Life After 40“. The eleven lesson course is based on my book How To Find Your Purpose After 40 and man, if I would’ve encountered this course all those years back I would’ve grabbed it with both hands. It has the exact steps that I took to get to this point and I’m really excited to share it. If you’re interested in enrolling, you can get a 20% discount at check out by clicking this link and searching for my course “Finding Purpose In Life After 40” with the search icon on the tool bar.

Thanks for visiting and if you need any ideas for forming a new posse at this time of life, leave a comment and I’ll give you some ideas. x Sue

When Perimenopause Symptoms Go Too Far

Lately I’ve been getting very similar questions regarding perimenopause (the lead up to menopause) and they revolve around a couple common but problematic symptoms: anxiety and thinning hair. While both of these can be associated with hormonal changes related to perimenopause, they can also be symptomatic of underlying issues. The even bigger problem is that because we women have basically been forced to be our own change guru’s, a lot of us think we have no choice but to suck it up and in turn become vulnerable to trying potentially harmful to useless DIY approaches, from self medicating to endlessly testing miracle cures to figure out solutions.

I manage my perimenopause symptoms daily. You know my drill already. I have my daily yoga, meditation and walking practice. On top of this a glass of wine or a cup of coffee is a rarity rather than a part of my life. Refined sugar is gone as is flour products (except for a piece of nice bread for a special breakfast out once or twice a month). I’ve been doing three months of acupuncture treatments and am down now to once a month. I journal, I nap, I this and that. The list of things I’m actively doing to feel good seems to grow. And all of this isn’t just a quick fix. These habits began years ago and have been added on and practiced consistently, especially over the last couple years.

It’s not a quick fix. It’s a long game strategy to not only get through this key time but to set myself up for as much good health as I can control in the decades to come.

Through email messages and the Interwebs, I’m understanding that many of us are suffering more than we need to. We’re expecting to feel like crap during this time and the levels to which we’ll tolerate sub-health are getting extended as we become more disillusioned with doctors who don’t seem to know how to help us. It’s no surprise that when something really troubling happens to us, we either don’t want to go to the doctor or we may not even have one who can help us.

So in this vlog I ask you to hone into your intuition, into your gut. Let your gut be the guide to if you need to take your health to the next level. Perimenopause is a natural transition that happens to also be a very brilliant messenger. Answer the mail. You deserve it.

 

 

What’s Your Money Story?

In this week’s vlog I talk about something I never dreamed that I’d be interested in discussing in public and that’s money. I guess the key word in this sentence is “interested”. For me, the subject of money has always brought up feelings ranging from boredom and disinterest to anxiety and even undeserved shame. I still don’t know exactly why the “shame” thing shows up but I’ll figure it out eventually.

The bottom line, and of course, that’s the language of money speaking, is that I’m choosing to no longer engage in this dysfunctional relationship. I’m breaking up with it.

For the past year I’ve been on a very slow, step by step, unraveling of my money story. It began with focusing on abundance and then went on from there. It’s been a time travel back to when I was a child. It’s the kind of stuff I had to be a grown up to understand. And more than that. I had to be ready and willing to understand it. I emphasize this because in this year I’ve learned that many of us, millions of us, choose to stay in the dark with our money. We have no idea what’s in our bank accounts. We have no idea how much debt we have. We have no idea what our expenses are. We have no idea our self worth. We have no idea our value. The list of the “no idea’s” goes on and on.

But a while back it hit me. What if I applied the same energy and attitudes to this money thing that I do every aspect of my life that is working. What if I could turn it into something that has joy and abundance attached to it rather than drudgery.

But the first stop has been uncovering my money story and how that taught me to engage with it as an adult. This was like letting a genie out of a bottle. It was like saying “Okay money thing, I’m ready to meet you and see  who you really are.”

Speaking about money often leaves us feeling vulnerable but I’m finding now, with practice, that it can actually be empowering. So, if you’re reading this and any of it resonates, I’d love to explore more with you on the subject of how we all learned “to do” money. Watch the video and then, tell me YOUR money story.