My name is Susan Paget and I’m so glad you’re here.
I specialize in helping women over 40 make door busting changes at mid-life. I do this through podcasts, vlogs and my books, “Be Your Own Change Guru: The Ultimate Women’s Guide For Thriving At Midlife” and “How To Find Your Purpose: The Secret To Unlocking Your Unique Gift To The World.” My most recent book is “Gray Hair Adventure: Things I Learned About Life When I Stopped Dyeing My Hair”.
Although I’m based in Sydney, Australia, I’m originally from Southern California (I’m officially a Valley Girl!) and I take my message of positive aging and making the most of midlife everywhere.
My road to focusing on life after 40 came completely out of desperate chance. As a young mom of three (who are now adults) I began my career as a television researcher which then evolved to becoming a producer with Australian domestic companies such as Nine Network Australia, FremantleMedia, SBS Australia and international networks including ARD German Television, NDR and ARTE. Through the years my writing has been featured in the Los Angeles Times, Australian Associated Press, Australian Geographic Magazine, Australian Yoga Journal and Australian Yoga Life Magazine. Most of my work was influenced by my interests in health, travel and pop culture.
As much as I loved some aspects of my job and had a great family, when I was about 47, my whole life seemed completely out of wack. I didn’t know it at the time but I was experiencing what I now know were classic perimenopausal symptoms such as anxiety, panic attacks and insomnia. Like I describe in my book Be Your Own Change Guru, everything came to a crazy head and I went on a massive fishing expedition to work out what this change of life was all about, using my journalist’s background to get to the bottom of it all. What I never could’ve predicted was that my search for the truth about midlife would lead me to a complete career change. I returned to university to pursue a psychology degree, earned a government sanctioned diploma in Advanced Practitioner Life Coaching and I’m accredited by the International Coaching Federation. As side dabblings I’m also a certified NLP practitioner and Reiki Level 1 practitioner. In addition to my books, vlogs, and podcasts, I teach online courses on the learning platform, Curious.com. I also coach privately via Skype and Facebook and you can get more information on that here.
In my spare time, I pay it forward by volunteering my coaching services for Dress For Success Sydney, part of an incredible organization that helps “at risk” women get back in the workforce.
I’m a continual yoga student and am coming up on my 17th year of a traditional Ashtanga yoga practice (for those that study Ashtanga, I’m not sure if I will ever get past Laghu Vajrasana, but I am having fun trying).
Now, a little bit of my philosophy and how I can help you:
Through my own experience I’m continually humbled by midlife. It’s a time of incredible change. From our physicality to the way we see our relationships, career and future, this is a stage of life where just about everything in our world seems in flux. But it’s also a time of mystery. Even though we’re one of the largest demographics in the population and the most economically powerful sector in the Western world, mid-life remains a subject that seems still stuck in a closet. Most of us have been told very little about it, how to prepare for it, how to use it to our advantage. I know for myself, it is something that my friends and sisters rarely bring up. While there are incredible pioneers who are beginning to blaze a pathway of knowledge on midlife, It’s a subject that for whatever reason seems to only get talked about in whispers.
But the challenge – and beauty – of midlife is that it’s a stage of our biology that pretty much refuses to be put in a corner and told to be quiet. I subscribe to the theory that if there are things that you have not dealt with through your life, that you’ve stifled, and hoped they would just go away, well, by the time you come into perimenopause, those denied feelings will come and make themselves known.
The concern with this is often these “cries for attention” manifest themselves into serious situations that can range from relationship and career breakdown to physical dysfunction. Sometimes we can put our fingers on what’s wrong and other times, there is just a vague but overwhelming sense of discontent that starts permeating everything.
I’m wondering if any of these scenarios sound like you:
You feel like your body is starting to turn on you. It’s like you constantly have PMS – you’re moody, gaining weight, your skin doesn’t feel good, your libido is shot and you have insomnia. You have no idea what is going on with your hormones, other than that you have an inkling they are completely out of wack.
You have dedicated your life to your family and along the way have put your dreams on hold. Now your children are old enough so that you have more time with yourself. But where do you start? Your dreams have been on ice for so long you don’t even remember what they are anymore. And if you did know what they were, you think it might be better to just give them up all together.
You still haven’t found the relationship of your dreams. You’re at the point where you’re willing to settle for sub par standards and low quality people, even though in your gut you know you deserve better. But the idea of being alone terrifies you (and you can feel this way even if you’re currently in a relationship).
You’re self medicating. You need something to take the edge of anxiety off.You find that the occasional glass of wine has become a nightly two or three glasses. Or perhaps you are on anti-depressants or regularly use recreational drugs to relax. You think deep down you might have a problem but you’re choosing not to face it.
You’ve devoted your life to your career and are excellent at it. But this dedication has come at a cost to your health and your dreams of a family. You are constantly stressed and your adrenals are fried. You wish that you could get off the merry-go-round and pursue your desires but you can’t see a way out. You feel trapped.
You think you’re too old or you say “I’m too old”. And you say it a lot.
After all this time you realise you still haven’t worked out what you want to do with your life. You always thought that you’d stumble upon your reason for being here, your purpose. But here you are and you still haven’t found it. You wonder if it’s too late and the idea of that breaks your heart.
Well, that’s where I come in.
My purpose is to help you work through your limited beliefs, to face the things that aren’t working in your life and to help you fulfill the desires of your dreams. I believe that mid-life is one of the most extraordinary and potent times to make these changes. Our age is an asset- the amount of personal and world knowledge we’ve acquired gives us incredible tools to move in the direction of our higher selves. My personal vision is to empower women to embrace aging as a positive process where what’s come before was just setting the scene, what’s coming up next is where the real gold lies.